Welcome to the generation of instant gratification. What once was days, and weeks of waiting for something to appear in front of us, is now immediately delivered in a matter of seconds, or next day air. We rely on amazon prime to deliver everything right to our front doors, or expect tickets in a matter of seconds to our email once we’ve paid for them. What about the long list of requirements we want from people? Do we expect these people to just show up on our doorstep having every box checked off on our list? What many all too often forget, and refuse to acknowledge is that we are the product of how we treat ourselves. We want someone who is going to treat us like a million bucks, and be the perfect partner, however; we forget to look at the inner core of who we are, and what we have to offer. One of my absolute favorite quotes that I use is “You cannot have a Rolls Royce, if you yourself are a Honda Civic”
So how does one go from Honda Civic to Rolls Royce status? How do you learn to trade that car in for your dream car? The best piece of advice on that is IT IS NOT EASY! In order to change lanes, and find your new-found status you have to put in the work. Think of it as going a year with no vacation, or day off. Working 60-hour work weeks, and grinding with your head down the entire time. On the other hand, once you put in that ungodly time, and commitment to trading up, and completely rebuilding your baseline; you will become that Rolls Royce. You will shine from all angles, and make it to a league not many make it to. You will not want anything next to you other than a car in the same class & prestige. You want that person to have the same baseline as you. Match your effort in every single way possible. Go the same speed, be as sleek and stylish as you, and ride through life knowing you’ve made it to the other lane.
Here is my advice on how to go from Honda Civic to Rolls Royce Status:
Completely strip down to the basics
No fluff or frills. Survive on the bare minimum essentials for at least six months. No fancy meals, no extracurricular activities, no happy hours, and no gifts.
Take a walk deep within your soul
Maybe this is a retreat, taking up therapy, talking about your feelings & going way back to when you first were hurt, and began protecting yourself as a child. Learn WHY you are the way you are today. Cry a lot. Alone, with friends, in public, let it out. This is one of the hardest things for most people to do, but when you do it you’ll truly begin your new rebuilding phase, and baseline.
Be prepared to say “out with the old, and in with the new”
You may not want to hear this, but not everyone wants for you what you want in life, and that’s ok. Realizing the people around you, and how they affect your emotions, well-being, and overall betterment of yourself from the inside out is crucial. Your friends, and the people you surround yourself with are ultimately hindering you from changing lanes, or pushing you into the next lane closer to your ideal baseline. Be prepared to lose friendships, and shift to new ones that give you so much more alignment, and foundation to your life purpose. Be ok with letting go, and at peace with how they served your life at the time. Wish them well, and move forward.
Date yourself as if you are your ideal partner in life
Have you ever just said the hell with it, I am going on a date with myself tonight? Put on your best outfit, killer shoes, and just walked out the door to take yourself to a nice meal and a movie? I have, and it was a bit of a work in progress. Now I look forward to those nights on the regular. To know I am at a place of complete happiness with myself, and being alone is the biggest step to finalize your inner and outer transformation. Eating healthier, taking better care of yourself emotionally, financially, spiritually, and physically is the best way to become that Rolls Royce and shine! Thank goodness for those crying sessions, dancing moments, and every moment in between to rebuild your inner core. Without an engine you have nothing. Read those personal development books, travel alone, eat alone, and just be. Only then will you know you’ve done all you can to fulfill that inner best self without needing anyone else. Wait for it, don’t settle, and watch your life unfold in a new lane.
Welcome to a league of your own friends!