"If you have to put effort into wooing her as a true gentleman should, be lucky that you've snagged yourself a high maintenance woman"
What is considered high maintenance?
Definition: Has higher than normal expectations; has a greater requirement for affection or attention; has more needs and/or demands and therefore more difficult or challenging. Some may say it’s looks, the amount of time it takes her to get ready, how much money she spends on personal upkeep, or her taste in material things, and places she goes.
What do I consider myself to be?
I used to spend so much effort and time defending that I am low maintenance when it comes to the day to day getting ready, loving simple things in life just as much as I appreciate the finer ones on occasion. For me its not necessarily a definition I want to put all of myself into. I do however consider my mind high maintenance. Let me explain further…
My mind is constantly requiring effort to keep me engaged, stimulated, and matching my expectations of myself, and others. I am confident in who I am, but not arrogant. I am EXTRA, but humble. I am always aware of how blessed I am everyday. I have had high standards since as long as I can remember of myself, and the people closest to me.
Being blessed with beauty and brains I feel is definitely a catch 22 for women these days. A high maintenance woman may sound scary to many, but when you take the confidence, the high level of respect she commands from everyone around her, and her put together appearance you are left with a girl standing in front of someone asking them to love her, and accept her unconditionally.
When you take the average person, who lives a life day in and day out in a very comfortable, yet simple way the word high maintenance tends to be more of a burden than it is an evolution. If a man could have any woman he wanted he is most likely going to pick the most confident and kindest woman he can find, who is commanding respect from him. I think a better way to describe a high maintenance woman is a woman that has a high value on herself, and her self-worth. One of my all-time favorite sayings in 2018 was “I don’t have time for that!”
Low maintenance is also a great word, but for me it resonates with lower effort. Low effort is perfect for when it comes to getting ready. Can I walk out the door in 10 minutes with my hair up, and sweats on of course! Can I rock a dive bar, and roll up in jeans and a t-shirt, I’m game. Do I love my make up free Sundays, and twice a year hair cuts I sure do! But I also believe in the more you invest in yourself, whether personal development, or physical appearance, the more you’ll become confident in who you are, and attract the mirror image of yourself. Low maintenance when it comes to my thoughts, my effort, my life in general couldn’t be further from the truth. My mind wants adventure, to thrive and learn alongside people who want to constantly better themselves. The daily, monthly, yearly consistent work we put into ourselves, and into our relationships should be high maintenance in my mind. After all, relationships take constant attention and work whether with ourselves, friendships, or romantic partners.
I encourage you in 2019 to step up your effort and value in yourself, and with those around you. Your mind is your most precious commodity, aside from time. Invest in your mind, and watch the world around you bow down.
Remember to always keep your heels, standards, & expectations high. Smell, look, & feel good. Stay highly ambitious, motivated, and abundant. Remain in high demand. Be blessed, loved, and grateful.