Oh 2018! You took me on one of the most fulfilling rides one can go on, internally that is. Through the ups and downs of self discovery, self love, and self reflection I have found an unwavering solid foundation for which I built brick by brick to launch off of. It’s taken me a little longer to finally sit down on a Sunday evening, and put it all into words. There are many reasons as to why I started my blog in January of 2018, and I thought that there was no better time than now to share what I’ve walked away with.
Let’s first start off with my love of writing. For me, it is incredibly powerful to be able to share my honest, and very vulnerable thoughts with all of you. From those who see me daily, to those who have never met me, but have reached out to share your own support, and stories from all over the world; it is such a blessing to be able to connect through words, and thoughts that are spoken with love.
Believe it or not, I used to have a blog that I loved to write ten years ago. As I have grown into the woman I am today, I chose to start a new blog with a title that was very appropriate for representing who I have become. I knew I wanted to use the word Gumption in my blog name. It has truly resonated with me for so many years. Throughout my career, and as a young woman, it is resourcefulness that has gotten me to where I am today. Whether one would agree or not with some of my choices, every single decision to push myself forward, and get through difficult times is why I resonate so much with the word Gumption. As for Graceful I have always aspired to be a classy woman. One who absolutely always holds herself to the highest standards of self respect with grace. To be refined, and remain elegant in a world full of less and less class, and clothing is something to be incredibly proud of these days. To always lead with a beautiful mind vs. body is something I have always wanted to remain a pioneer leader for.
So why Instagram, and why share your life with the world?
Easy. Freedom! I wanted to take my life back, and truly be at peace. For me being authentically myself, and having full creative control over the community I could create was intriguing. To be able to add value to others by sharing my deeper thoughts, personal feelings, and struggles was such a wonderful feeling knowing that I wasn’t alone on my journey. How incredibly powerful to talk to complete strangers, and instantly form connections based on common factors that we are sharing. There’s no denying we all at some point in our lives have been faced with challenges, disappointment, and sadness. Why not use those moments to rise above, and connect through the powerful ways of social media story telling platforms such as Instagram. The people I have met have been nothing but wonderful, non judgmental, and open to bettering themselves alongside me. I felt that by being myself through a wonderful creative outlet, it would also hold me accountable to push outside of my own comfort zone to be the person on the outside, that I have become on the inside. Creating content, while not editing photos, and throwing on filters to alter my appearance is quite challenging. To find the perfect natural light while embracing my love of fashion, and the many facets of my personality has been truly liberating. It’s all taken a shape of its own this past year. It’s better than I ever expected. It’s me.
What bits of wisdom would you say you walked away with your first year as a blogger?
Focus your energy more on your character than anything else
Be proud of who you are right now. Celebrate all the little wins
Your friends are those who ride the roller coaster til the end, and get off with you; not those who leave you in a seat alone, or watch from the ground
Laugh all the time. Find the laughter wherever you can.
There’s no way you can ever be in someones exact shoes. Leave judgement at the door when you enter any room
Take photos, face time with friends to enjoy moments, but be present and put technology aside to be in awe of who, and what’s in front of you
Don’t be afraid to believe in something, and have full conviction in whatever that is
Appreciate all the little things in life. Hand holding, a smile, telling someone their beautiful, compliments
People will not like you, its inevitable. Let it go. There’s no point in trying to change their mind. Keep moving forward
Cry, let out your emotions. In public, alone, let yourself fully feel
Be selfless, but remember to love yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you
Change is incredible once the pieces all come together, it’s ok to have your puzzle pieces all over the table while you embrace the unknown
Put forth an incredible amount of effort into anything you want to remain in your life. Never take anything for granted
Do what feels unbelievably out of your comfort zone. Who care's whose watching
Don’t worry about what others are doing, how successful they are, what they have. Stay the course in your own lane, and enjoy your own journey
Always remain humble, and keep learning.
Be BRAVE. Never give up. Keep fighting. Don’t let anyone take away your light to shine!
Thank you all for allowing me to share my life, and create a beautiful community for those to rest their head while rebuilding, and healing.